Hello Fellas!! Hope you are in good shape and health.
My today’s blog topic is about ‘Boundaries’. However, I havent restricted to Humans but I have taken one step ahead of it and going to write about other living forms especially ‘Pets’
We are always told to set Boundaries for ourselves to keep our mind, body & soul balance and at peace.
It doesnot only means physical boundaries. It also means emotional as well as mental boundaries. When someone crosses our boundaries we get irritated and feel like snaping at them or we feel more depressed. We do have many people who fail to maintain boundaries. They try but in the end they are unable to stick to it for many reasons. The same thing applies to Animals. Difference is they cannot speak the way we speak but their body do talk which we fail to recognize it as we feel we are more superior to them as we have the utmost god given rights to control them as per our needs and requirements.
We all love our pets. Whether it is dog or cat or turtle or horse or donkey or pig or snake or hamsters and so on. We want they should be in good health and are well taken care off. However, there are many nasty humans who will really cause troubles to their pets once they realize they can no longer look after them due to old age and diseases or they feel this pet is not for them and in the end they give it back or are left out in open. Even breeders who have squeezed it and have now realised that they can no longer get anything from them, they are left to die. Poor pet doesn’t understand what happened. For them we are everything. But these nasty humans wont even feel it.
Now let’s talk about boundaries for our pets. When we take out pet for a walk, lets say dog. We want out dog to meet other dogs as they love it which in return will help them to socialize effectively. Many dogs are easily able to do it as we spend bomb on their training as we expect them to be trained and well behaved. Now while interacting them with other pets either in the dog park or any kind of gatherings, our pet may not like to interact with one or two specific dogs. This can be male dog trying to hump alot on the female dog or male dog try to make inconvenient to other male dog. We could see that frustrations and inconvenience in our dog. So what action do we take? Do we tell the other pet parent to stop it? or we take our pet from that situation. Well both are a good option. However, its the responsibility of the other pet parent also to tell he or she to stop it which they always fail as they believe its absolutely alright to do it.
Secondly when we are with our pets only, we try to be clingy with them or make them wear nasty clothes and all that which they dont like it but just to get more likes and make them insta famous we will do it. Here we are not respecting their boundaries. If they don’t like it dont force them because you want the benefit. If someone does the same thing with you, would you like it? You will become rebellious and chaotic or even start abusing and hitting the other person. Just because they are animals we ignore their feelings which slowly leads to depression.
Thirdly, when our pet doesnt like certain things may be its food or medicine or other pet inside the house, we still force them to like it. In medicine we need to as its important but we need to find creative ways to give them. When it comes to food we need to be again creative. So here also instead of forcing them, lets be creative and make a really strong bond with them.
Point here I am trying to make it, learn to respect your pet boundaries. If you expect them to begave within the boundaries, you should also do it.
Also for other pet parents, who knows that they pets are causing trouble to other pets in social situations or at the part, teach them not to do it instead of telling or proclaiming, that they are kids and its all okay.
Pet feels the discomfort and if we continue to allow this, your pet will be very soon be in the situation of social anxiety. So best is to begin now at this point. Remember ‘Charity begins at Home’. Once you learn to respect their boundaries, you can then stop other pet parents who are invading their boundaries and personal space.
With Love
Ken
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